What's abnormal behaviour anyway?

After many years of feeling somewhat removed from the 'norm', one day I decided that it was high time I asked myself the question, What is Abnormal?

But before we can write about specific behavioral disorders, we must define 'abnormal'. And what is normal behavior?

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The following criteria are used to determine wheter a persons behavior is abnormal or not:
Deviation from statistical norms;

• The word abnormal means 'away from the norm'. Many population facts are measured such as height, weight and intelligence.
•  Most of the people fall within the middle range of intelligence, but a few are abnormally stupid. 
• But according to this definition, a person who is extremely intelligent would be classified as abnormal. Thus in defining abnormal behaviour we must consider more.

Deviation from social norms; every vulture has certain standards for acceptable behavior; behavior that deviates from that standard is considered to be abnormal behavior. But those standards can change with time and vary from one society to another.

Maladaptiveness of behavior; this third criterium is how the behavior affects the well-being of the individual and/or social group.

•  Examples are a man who attempts suicide, an alcoholic who drinks so heavily that he or she cannot keep a job or a paranoid individual who tries to assassinate national leaders.
• Personal distress; the fourth criterion considers abnormality in terms of the individual's subjective feelings, personal distress, rather than his behaviour.
•  Most people diagnosed as 'mentally ill' feel miserable, anxious, depressed and may suffer from insomnia.
• In the type of abnormality called neurosis, personal distress may be the only symptom, because the individual's behaviour seems normal.

None of these definitions provides a complete description of abnormal behavior. The legal definition of abnormality declares a person insane when he is not able to judge between right and wrong, but this criterium is not used by psychologists.

What did you do today then?

Not quite my story today!...but a rather amusing picture none the less.

Why was I not joining in with the rest of Irelands obsession with porn (you did not know this?)

The story from a finance department goes that a female accountant tried to access online pornography from her office laptop nearly 1,800 times in two weeks. She also had 600 sexually explicit images saved on her hard drive.







The lessons to be learned?

Don’t download porn at work.

Why would a female accountant sitting in an office of Harcourt Street (You know who you are!) watch Porn?

1.  1. Curiosity. (freak show factor) 
2. To Get Off. Women and men may be from different planets, but they are both prone to the occasional masturbation session, and it is for that express purpose porn was designed
3. Learn New Moves. Well I do seriously hope that there is a something to be learned from it!).
4. Comparison Shopping. When do the ladies stop comparing then?  Never I would say!
5. Ogle Guys. Well I don't blame them, us Irish boys were not kissed by mother nature now where we, we were more like left lying around the place a bit like land mines!
6. Kill Time. Attention span always a problem with some!
7. Get in the Mood. A bit like foreplay perhaps?
8. It’s His. yes because it is our porn they feel the need to 'find out' what it is we do in our spare time!
9. Explore Secret Fantasies. If a woman isn't comfortable sharing her sexual fantasies, she may turn to porn to experience them vicariously. It could be something as simple as spanking, yet she may feel awkward telling her square-as-a-peg husband that she wants to play naughty. Porn never judges.Nor do I, unless you have been a very 'naughty girl' when in that case you had better bend over my knee!
10. Penises. Newsflash: Penises are weird. I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again. We don’t have them. We will never totally understand them. Porn is a penis show.

Monogomy

There are many people that are monogamous and if a partner is unable or unwilling to have sex, they deal with it, and not by having sex outside of their relationship.

Should spanking not be something an independent and opinionated woman should enjoy?

Sexual fetishism, or erotic fetishism, is the sexual arousal a person receives from a physical object, or from a specific situation. The object or situation of interest is called the fetish, the person a fetishist who has a fetish for that object/situation.

A sexual fetish may be regarded as an enhancing element to a romantic/sexual relationship "achieved in ordinary ways (e.g. having the partner wear a particular garment)" or as a mental disorder/disorder of sexual preference if it causes significant psychosocial distress for the person or has detrimental effects on important areas of their life.

Spanking can be described as a sexual fetish, and the good thing is, its getting more and more popular!